Sexual Health

Tips For Safe Kinky Play

Tips for safe kinky play

For many people, the more risky BDSM is, hotter sex will be. However, you are pushing your lover or being pushed to the limits in these games, and you need to be in control. Safety is always the first thing to discuss. We are not going to tell you the risks involved with various activities, but specific safety protocols to ensure you have the fun of your play.

Setting Limits

Both soft limits and hard limits are important no matter you are with a long-time partner or a person you do not know very well. They decide what’s acceptable and unacceptable during your play. Soft limits are negotiable activities, while hard limits are activities that you or your partner absolutely will not tolerate. Soft and hard limits are different for everyone. Pre-play negotiations will help you to come up with your limits and make your practice as fun and smooth as possible.

Safe Words

It’s easy to go in too far in BDSM play and can’t stop when something unpleasant occurs. At this time, safe words are available for immediate use. For instance, “Yellow” is commonly used to represent “I’m reaching my limit”, “Red” means “Stop at once” while “Green” stands for “Everything is perfect and keep going”. You can choose any word you like as safe words provided it’s short easy to remember. Negotiate with your partner in advance in case of confusion and misunderstanding.

Physical Safety

BDSM is based on pleasure. So physical safety is super important. You can’t injure your partner or yourself. Full understanding of scenarios and tools that you might be interested in will help. Also, make sure that the tools are safe enough.

Emotional Safety

Emotional safety includes three aspects, safe, sane and consensual.

Safe means partners should check-in with each other not only physically but also psychologically. If one of you are in struggling emotion, you should cease or readjusted the activities.

Sane is reiterated to remind you to distinguish between fantasy and reality. The scenario ends when it ends, and do not make day-to-day life permeate the scenario.

Consensual is essential for all BDSM play to be successful and exciting. Both of the partners have the responsibility to inform the other one of what he/she wants and does not want. And you should observe the limits set in advance.

The knowledge of BDSM safety is super important. If everything you are interested in is safe, proceed and have fun.

If you want to learn about the risks involved with various activities in detail, read our blog:

– Beginner’s Guide To Nipple Play

– Beginner’s Guide To Blindfolds

– Beginner’s Guide to Ball Gags